self-love now you may say to me Robinself-love we come to you for leadership
mentorship Robin we come to you for ally
performance advice Robin we come to you
for your tactics on exponential
productivity or building a great company
or having service to humanity what are
you talking about self love well I think
in many ways self love is the starting
point to world class and you've never
heard me say that before but the way you
are in the world is a deep reflection of
the way you are with yourself you know
your prosperity and your income is
always a reflection of your
self-identity your daily behavior is
always a reflection of your deepest
beliefs you're not going to go out in
the world out in the world and represent
your highest creativity productivity and
mastery if you hate yourself you're not
going to be kind to people on the street
smile at strangers uplift the teammate
Wow a customer if you're full of hatred
about who you truly are and I think this
is one of the missed ideas and one of
the missed truths in the world today the
doorway to success really does open
inward it doesn't open outward and I'veseen so many people even some of the
people I coach you know these people
they learn the intellectual ideas to
build an empire and I also teach them
how they multiply productivity and I
also teach them how do you scale your
fortunes and build a life of joy peace
beauty and freedom and yet some of them
here's what they do
they tear it all down we get to these
amazing results through our coaching
together and they hit an inflection
point or they start to self-sabotage
maybe they start to drink too much maybe
they start to be rude to the people on
their team maybe they start to pick
fights with their significant other
maybe they start to get too distracted
by digital media and they start to tear
it all down it is a huge act of
self-sabotage and I've seen it for so
many years working with the best of the
best why does that happen well it
happens because you will never rise any
higher than the way you see yourself on
the outside if you don't feel you are
deserving of beauty prosperity acclaim
fame fortune impact on society if you
don't really feel you deserve it because
you feel like you're not enough you
really don't like yourself you're
suffering from what psychologists call
impostor syndrome then you're gonna read
the books you're gonna watch these
mastery sessions you're gonna go to the
courses you're gonna do the work but you
are going to reach a point where your
mindset becomes in conflict with your
heart set if you don't know these for
interior empires I'm always talking
about mindset heart set health set and
soul set read about them and learn about
them in the 5 a.m. Club my latest book
but the larger point is simply this
think about this idea of self-sabotage
and it all comes from a lack of
self-love you know if as a child you
didn't receive appreciation from your
parents if as a child you might have
received physical love or physical
caring but that heart set need that need
for love and appreciation that need for
human validation if you didn't get that
from your parents so you didn't get that
from your teachers or you didn't get
that from your early influences well
here's what's gonna happen you're gonna
be suffering and I use the word
intentionally you're going to be
suffering from these heart set wounds of
neglect emotional and neglect
and you're not gonna like yourself very
much and especially in this culture of
comparison
you're gonna those wounds are going to
be activated every single day you're
gonna walk out in the world and you're
gonna look at your device and you're
gonna see all these people showing you a
highlight reel of the lives they want
you to think they're living most of it's
just an illusion I was reading recently
there is actually a service where you
can rent a jet on a runway and for 20
minutes you can go to the runway and get
a photographer to take pictures of you
on a private jet and outside of the
private jet you know like this right and
you get to post it on social media and
you can hire photographers to take you
to all these luxury brand stores or
you're outside of a luxury brand store
and you're like outside a luxury brand
store maybe even if you can't afford the
watch or the purse or the shoes or
whatever it is what is the point I'm
suggesting to you everything begins
within if you don't love yourself then
you're gonna go out into the world and
in this culture of show business this
culture of bling this culture of
comparison this culture of social media
gratification you're gonna get activated
you're gonna get pinged those ancient
runes are gonna get touched on every
single day and you're just gonna be
miserable and so four truths to help you
grow self-love so that you build that
inner warrior and this place of peace
and this huge well of tranquility that
cannot be disrupted when you go out into
the world is what is really
mission-critical right you want to be so
strong in your skin so strong in your
luminosity so strong in your
relationship with who you truly are that
nothing in the outer world can activate
you and diminish your energy and make
you feel not enough you know what
Eleanor Roosevelt said my friend
no one can insult you without your
mission you know what Oscar Wilde said
he said be yourself everyone else is
taken
you know what Warren Buffett once said
there can never be a better you than you
you know what Jack well said when he was
at GE do not lose yourself on the way to
the top so let me walk you through four
specific truths that will help you grow
self-love number one honor your
specialness honor your specialness lookwe've got billions of people on this
tiny planet and yet there is no other
person alive today quite like you no one
quite like you the gifts that you have
no one quite like the way that you talk
no one has the same fingerprints no one
walks exactly in the same way as you no
one is the same hopes and dreams as you
no one has had the same sufferings that
you have no one has become precisely the
same person that you are no one has the
same potential you have no one has
exactly the same primal genius that
lurks at your court that makes you
special now I'm not suggesting that you
fall into what I call RAM syndrome WR am
world revolves around me look I'm so
special I'm entitled I'm so special
world give me a great living I see that
all over the world we live in this
society of great entitlement people
don't want to show up early people are
not committed to mastery in all cases a
lot of people are like give to me and
they've become takers from their
organizations and their marketplaces and
their society versus understanding you
get from the world what you give to the
world but the point on this first truth
is honor your specialness appreciate who
you are there is no one quite like you
the second truth to grow self-love is to
do hard things daily and I want you to
think about this one really intimately
right here right now
when you get up every day are you on the
path of least resistance I you know
someone said to me on one of my social
feeds the other day Robin I've read the
5 a.m. Club loved the information full
of energy to get it done but I need to
tell you it sounds very easy it's much
harder to do in real life well what is
this love we all have in this world we
live in of things needing to be easy
society has sold us a bill of goods
you know everything should be easy we
should transform our health with one
quick pill you know a great relationship
should happen in a month and if we don't
have a magical relationship we're not
all in love and Wonder then we should
leave the relationship if we're in a job
you know anything that's worth doing is
challenging at first and if we're at a
job
Oh after three months if it's not the
job of my lifetime we leave it in a
relationship you know if it's not
perfect we leave it if we want to
upgrade our health oh I've been at it
two weeks oh you know what it's really
hard I need to stop my journey to
world-class fitness what's my point my
point is simply this anything great you
will ever do in your life is hard and so
are you living everyday let me ask you
right now in this moment I am blessed to
share with you when you get up in the
morning when you go through your day
when you construct your evening routine
is it all around the path of least
resistance is it all about pleasure is
all about fun is it all about are you a
master of easy or are you doing what the
very few do on the planet today as you
know one of my core brain tattoos is to
have the results 95% of the population
do not have you've got to commit to
doing what only 5% of the population are
willing to do and what the Titans do
what the virtuosos do what the
Exceptionalist do they build their days
around the pursuit of difficult things
and if you
do that here's what happens you're gonna
build a momentum and if you do that each
day will be a platform for growth but
even more importantly how do you build
self-respect it's by doing difficult
things when you say I'd like to watch a
video in the evening or my favorite TV
show but tonight I commit to spending
time with my child who wants my
attention and who needs me you grow in
self-respect when you say I'm going to
get up at 5 a and I'm gonna run this 20
20 20 formula that Robin teaches and
that has literally helped millions of
people upgrade their morning routine and
their energy productivity creativity
impact you grow in self-respect when you
say I'm not gonna coast through my day
today I'm gonna do something that's
gonna give me a micro win so my work and
my crafts gets a little better you grow
in self-respect if each day you do
difficult things and make these daily
optimizations each day through the doing
of micro difficulties you build greater
self-respect and as you build greater
self-respect you fall in love with
yourself it's a great way to build
self-love I mean one of the tactics to
remember is how do you grow self-love
you consistently make and then keep self
promises which brings you and I to the
third truth to grow self-love go to the
woods go to the woods we spend so much
time in the noise of life we forget
about the signal we spend so much time
and the frenzy of society or forget
about who we truly are I'm challenging
you with great love and respect don't
just be a producer be a philosopher
don't just be out into the world go to
the wilderness we are animals we need to
retreat but also at our core we must
spend time in solitude for years I've
been teaching a philosophy the 3s
philosophy solitude silence and
stillness solitude silence and stillness
in this world right now of such digital
distraction such social media comparison
such busy being busy we wake up in the
morning sometimes there's so many emails
so many notifications we must make the
time to go to the woods physically or
metaphorically and when you find that
time to practice the 3 s's of silent
solitude and stillness here's what
happens you remember who you truly are
you remember your priorities you can
build the intimacy and fluency with your
primary relationship and the primary
relationship I suggest to you who you
truly are you're not your past you're
not your weaknesses you're not your
false beliefs you're not your hypnosis
you're not your genius betrayals when
you start to spend time alone in the
woods in solitude in reflection that's
when you can say I am NOT my wounding I
am NOT my hatred I am NOT my insecurity
I am NOT my sorrow I am NOT my fears I
am NOT my stumblings you start to hear
the quiet whispers of your greatest self
and you start to remember you are
luminosity you are a hero you're not a
victim you're a leader you have this
goodness within you this deep creativity
within you there's great power within
you that longs to see every day and the
more you spend time in the woods alone
remembering who you truly are
it's like any other relationship you
spend time with it you nurture it you
grow it you become aware of it it gets
stronger and stronger and then you
become this force of nature out in a
world of so many people who have
forgotten who they truly are and you
stand as an army of one of possibility
and leadership and strength forth truth
to grow self-love is simply this the
more people you help the more love
you'll grow the more people you'll help
the
or you will expand if you really want to
times 25 yourself love times 25 your
commitment to impact you know mother
Teresa said it really well it's as you
help more people you love yourself even
more greatly and it's Martin Luther King
jr. and I'll paraphrase him he said you
know we all can be great because
greatness is not about education
greatness is not about your position
greatness is not about your past every
single day we all can be helpful and so
each day we all can become great and so
I found personally the more I shift the
focus off of any any elements of fame
fortune applies getting more likes and
the more I obsess and make it this
monomaniacal driven mission that doesn't
come from the ego that comes from
servant to it to help more people
through the information I share in the
world the more joy I see in my own life
the more I pursue helpfulness the more
peace I fill up with and this episode is
certainly not about me this episode is
all about you I just want to share my
own personal experience which is the
more I get the focus and spotlight off
of any personal rewards and really not
only intellectually but emotionally
where real transformation comes from
from the heart set that's why it's so
important a strong mindset without a
pure heart set is an empty victory and
when you do that heart set work so that
you turn down the voice of the low-grade
emotions like anger and shame and guilt
and sorrow and when you upgrade your
commitment to self-love and gratitude
and serve into it it's amazing
what rewards you'll start to see in your
own life so I hope this episode has been
valuable for you inspirational tactical
and I'll see you in the next episode
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